Marriage...

Last night I was talking with my cousin and we happened to discuss which churches my brothers were going to get married in. Which led to the fact that, in our church, the couple has to sit down with the pastor and go through a couple meetings. It's sort of marriage counseling, kind of. I thought it was a waste of time really. My cousin told me they got rid of it because that's what everyone else thought too.

Anyway, in my sessions we had to take a test together about marriage and ourselves and what we think about each other and as a couple. Then we discussed it with the pastor. I don't really remember much about it except this one thing which I just thought of now while watching "Under the Tuscan Sun". You know the part in the end where Pavel asks Kiara's dad for permission to marry her and he says no, passion won't last and then you'll have nothing. For some reason it made me think of what the pastor said to us.

He said and I'm paraphrasing here, "You both indicated on your tests that you thought you'd never find anyone else besides the other. You know there are millions of people in the world and you can always find someone else. People do it all the time. After a divorce or if someone is widowed they find love again."

At the time I didn't even consider that. That there was someone else out there for me.

Now, when I remember what the pastor told us, the first thing that popped into my head was, "If you are madly in love with someone and you can think that there might be someone else out there for you, then why the hell are you getting married in the first place?"